More often than not, from friends and relatives, am asked this one question that I’ve never been able to answer definitely. And the question is, “What do you want as a birthday present?”
Coming from a family where ‘birthday parties’ is a taboo subject and where children aren’t showered with surprises or presents on their birthdays, I’ve never had any expectations what-so-ever on any of my birthdays that I should receive so and so as a present.
So, I’ve never been able to answer that one question and I’ve always been happy with any present I receive, because that’s a big rarity, even if it is just a box of goodies from Spencers or from Cafe Coffee Day! 🙂
So, often, the only expectation that I’ve had on my birthdays was being wished. Just a call or even a text would be enough to make me grin ear to ear!
But, thanks to facebook, people have simply stopped caring. Not that I expect people to remember each and everybody’s birthdays, but there should be something that should remind them of birthdays of their friends, but that something should definitely not be facebook. People simply write on walls or the applications send greetings to people on their birthdays without even their knowledge. So, basically you never know if people actually remember your birthday when they send you a greeting card!
That’s when I decided that my birthday wishes won’t comprise of people who remember it only because of facebook. And that’s when I hid my birth-day being visible from my profile. No, I don’t hide it the whole year, just a month prior to my birthday. And it has actually worked. From calls and messages ranging upto 2am or even 3am just a couple of years ago, they’ve reduced to the number of calls and texts being countable on finger tips. Yeah, you read it right, finger-tips.
Needless to say, this year has been no different. And it has yet again lived-up to my expectations. I expected some to not remember, and they didn’t. I expected certain people won’t call or text me, and they didn’t. I expected certain once-upon-a-time-best-friends won’t remember that it was my birthday, and they didn’t! I even had a chat for over a couple of hours with some friends and they din’t wish me either! All facebook effect!
My motto has been simple – I never expect high standards of them and they never disappoint me.
I began my birthday, after 12am calls and texts that is, with a drive – not long and not for pleasure either, but for work – which was nothing less than pleasure for there was no traffic at that late hour and slight drizzles along with cool air made it even more enjoyable. Rest of the day was spent as usual – work, social networking, texting friends, passing time etc. And the whole day was pretty much event-less except for a surprise visit from a couple of friends which totally made my day! 🙂
And the day ended with a drive too, just like it had begun, for work – but no-traffic, wet roads and cool winds made it an enjoyable drive.
Don’t you like it when people write their birthday wishes on your walls, you may ask. Of course I like to be wished – isn’t that the first thing I mentioned in this post – but not on facebook walls or via facebook apps or via facebook greetings. Just a simple “Happy birthday” in my messages, emails, or even Whatsapp would be more appreciated.
Doesn’t it hurt, you may ask next. Errr..I’m keeping myself occupied for the very same reason. 😛
P.S : Last year, after my birthday, I wrote this post – How to screw your birthday. No, it isn’t narcissism that I’m sharing a post that I wrote last year. It’s a gentle reminder for me as to how bad my writing was then, so that the comments on my other recent posts don’t get into my head. 😉